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Emotional Overwhelm After Leaving Church: Anxiety, Depression, and Mental Health Effects Leaving a high-control religion or belief system changes more than your beliefs. It changes your entire life, your social world, your identity, your relationships, and how you see yourself. For many people, leaving means starting over in every area of life at once. And […]
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He didn’t disappear because he doesn’t care…
He disappeared because he didn’t know how to stay.
For a lot of post-Mormon men, emotional conversations don’t feel like connection…
They feel like something to get right.
And when there’s no clear answer… the nervous system taps out.
That’s not indifference.
That’s overwhelm.
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I thought I was a bad person, not a kid who made a mistake I remember a moment from my childhood that, on the surface, does not seem like a big deal.My parents were out of town and I had double-booked myself. I had planned to stay the night ata friend’s house and completely forgot […]
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For many women, self-sacrifice becomes muscle memory. This story about Saturday morning pancakes explores how deeply ingrained patterns of putting ourselves last can quietly shape our lives.
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Written by: Ashley Kirkpatrick, LAC Understanding Gender Roles in Religion and Breaking Gender Roles For many men raised in high-control religious environments, the messages about “being a man” are rarely explicit, they’re taught through patterns, expectations, and unspoken rules. These lessons often center around performing for others, particularly women, and can quietly shape how men […]
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People Pleasing in Relationships: How The Fawn Response and Religious Trauma Turn Love Into Obligation Author: Ashley Kirkpatrick LAC “I don’t know what love is without fear attached to it.” That’s what Evan said in our session as he stared at his hands, struggling to explain why he felt so anxious in his relationship. He […]
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Written by Ashley Kirkpatrick, LAC Intuition vs. Nervous System Response inReligious Trauma: How to Tell the Difference It’s a quiet Friday morning. Clients aren’t until this afternoon and I just finished watching adocumentary about the Mormon church. It was not heartwarming—it was terrifying. I suddenlyfound myself urgently wanting to take action. I didn’t just want […]
Mellissa grew up in Southern California in a large family, heavily involved in high control conservative religion. She went on to attend college at Brigham Young University-Idaho where she studied sociology and family studies. She then spent 10 years as a stay at home parent. Life pivoted for Mellissa when she experienced a divorce and faith transition and began her own work in therapy.
She spent 5 years as an educator while obtaining her masters degree in professional counseling. She has spent the last 4 years specializing her practice to help others going through major unexpected life transitions, finding healing in the present moment and creating futures that align with their core values. Mellissa’s personal experiences, combined with her specialized expertise and focused study, create a uniquely supportive and effective clinical practice for individuals navigating major life transitions.
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